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Target audience: High School students getting the effects of Careers class (maybe only my school’s horrible careers program, maybe more)
Bias: Okay, I hate careers class because of my horrible teacher (you know me enough to know this isn’t simply a naive statement) and it is evident in this article. But nonetheless, that isn’t the purpose of the article… so still read on.

I have a problem with what we learn in our grade 10 careers class. This pretty much is where we are first introduced to “job interviews”, and what we are taught is “Be formal. Give them perfect responses. Give a good impression…” Ok these tips all have merit, but their vagueness and oversimplistic statements just so wrong. For an average student, here’s the response to these suggestions: “Ok, so to be formal I’ll be quiet and do exactly what the interviewer says. I’ll give perfect responses by bullshitting every answer and say what seems most ‘ideal’. A good impression would be a suck-up laugh to anything they say. A ha ha!”

You can see where it goes wrong, right?

I have to admit, I’ve even been suckered by this mindset as well. The opinions stated above of the “average student” were pretty good at representing me as well. But now that I’m looking for a job and this learned knowledge comes in to application; I’ve realised it’s gotten me nowhere.

Sure I’ve learned how to write a resume (a horrible resume nonetheless. They didn’t teach me how to properly make a skills based resume for a summer job, which my sister had to tutor) but in terms of interviews it didn’t do anything. It made me worse probably. So while asking my dad for tips regarding my resume and job interviews, he told me the reality of things:

• The purpose of an interview are for two things: to let the employer get to know who you are and if you’re what they need, and also for you to get to know the employer to see if you want to work for them.

Of course, how obvious was that? Yet we don’t learn these things.

We’re misguided with the idea from careers class that the point of an interview is strictly for the interviewer to see if you have the right answers. No. Absolutely not, there is more depth in an interview. The main purpose is for the interviewer to see who you are as a person, and how can he or she do so when all your responses are “ideal” and “bullshit” answers?

Your bullshit isn’t worth the little treasures it may hold.

Don’t be afraid to let them know who you are. Of course you should be more formal and more polite than when you are talking to friends, but at the same time you need to be as honest and as comfortable for them to even begin wanting to hire you. You’re getting to know the interviewer for your job as much as he or she is getting to know you.

Now I could go on “bullshitting” about how careers class may be worthy of a class… but HA I wont. I wouldn’t bullshit like that, because unlike what they taught us, I’d rather be honest and like myself. I honestly think that my careers class has ruined it for many students who were victims of it (that would be everyone at my school grade 10+). Thanks.

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What’s the deal with PDA (public displays of affection)? In a relationship, I think it’s important that the two are close together, and have a special bond… but this however doesn’t mean they should just stand in the middle of a public place and think they are the only people in this world and make out furiously.

Ok, to an extent, it’s reasonable to share affection and do things that are “cute” or “romantic” even if it’s in a relationship’s ‘own world’. (Often times, guys may not see the “cute”ness of these situations whereas girls do, but I’m not saying that’s giving me a bias to this article). But even with the understanding of relationships naturally aww-ing the public in cases, ultimately, “making out” does NOT qualify as cute or romantic. Seriously. Not even to the ditzy girls who would find anything aww-ing.

Now on the other hand, if we actually get into the situation and understand more than the plain “making out” aspect, such as: a guy and girl meet each other from afar, and haven’t seen each other in such a long time that they run up to each other and kiss, while holding each other in their arms for hours and hours and just stand there together… yes that is a public display of their affection, but it qualifies as being “romantic” or “cute”. Even I, as an angry guy especially on this subject of pda, agree that it qualifies as being aww-worthy. But if these two just walk up to each other after seeing the other just a few hours or minutes ago, and just start orally attacking each other… well does that really seem romantic to you?

The expression “get a room” isn’t merely a simple joke to “hahaha you’re so hilarious!” to. It actually means more than the some how ‘funny’ aspect of them getting down privately in a room. That “get a room” phrase implies that we (as the public) really don’t give a crap how much you two are in love; share your affection within the two of you, not in public. It’s not saying don’t make out, because that would be just plain selfish on the public’s part. It’s saying you can share your connection together, just not here where it makes others furiously disgusted.

On a side (but somewhat related) note, here’s what couples really shouldn’t do:
- don’t patronise others just because you’re in a relationship and they’re not
(do you think because in your mind you put yourself as superior, no one else would think the opposite?)
- don’t detach your friends just because they’re not directly within your relationship’s “world”
(a relationship should be a compliment, not a replacement of other friendships)
- and finally, don’t forget that there are others around you when you decide to publicly display your affection.
- Ultimately, don’t let a relationship cloud your mind.