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I’ve been wondering to myself in English class, “how can one analyze the subject of love and sexuality in poems and stories, if most of us do not actually understand it first hand?” We discuss in class how characters in stories do things for love, feels certain ways, do certain things etc. but how can anyone fully grasp a concept without experiencing it in life?

Anyways, let me explain more specifically the discussion in class. Today my teacher brought up some notices and such about sexual innuendos in a poem we read that no one was able to detect; something about a guy telling a girl not to become a nun, because it’s like a rose who ends up simply dying instead of being plucked and living forever as potpourri (in vague terms: she should lose her virginity to live a useful life). I thought this was beautiful, but could also tell that many of the females in my class only took it in as simply a literature analysis statement.

What I’m trying to get at is, as children we are taught that sex is a forbidden topic. We grow up being hesitant even to mention the word “sex”. Sex education nowadays teaches us the negative aspects of sex in our world, including the consequences such as STDs, and unwanted pregnancies. Of course this is really important to us as a society, because the consequences of sexual intercourse can really damage a life and a future… however this is an automatic assumption that is put upon us as teenagers that we’re all going out to parties every weekend getting drunk and having casual unprotected sex. Of course this applies to a portion of us in the world, but what happens to the young innocent girls who you know would never throw their lives away to risk something such as this?

These type of girls are brought up being taught that sex is absolutely wrong, and forbidden. There is no right to it, and it shouldn’t even be considered. What this does to them, is it creates this concept in their head where they’re forced to see only the negative aspects of sex, sexual desire, practice, etc. By doing this, they never end up understanding what sex is, and at the same time they don’t want to. While the government is keen on educating the youth and allowing the nation to be more knowledgeable in subject such as the consequences of sexual activity, of course it may work for a part of the population, but it actually ends up sheltering girls who are falsely accused for something they’d never do. The government wants us to be more knowledgeable, but people twist the concepts in their head that they learn as kids and automatically assume that sex and anything having to do with it, is wrong.

Once in a while, the topic of sex comes up with friends and while sometimes it’s just a pure joking “guyish” conversion, other times it actually gets interesting to hear the views of others. With the guys, obviously the discussion revolves around the same “guyish” idea; after all we grow up together and experience puberty similarly as well are significantly more open to discussion on embarrassing personal subjects (which is why this article is about young females, which may sound biased but really isn’t. Yes, guys learn about sex differently). However with girls, it is much more different and actually very interesting to hear the views since they can vary extremely from person to person. I remember hearing the strangest things such as “girls only have sex when they’re feel sad…” and “‘sex’ is something two people share [strictly] for the purpose of advancing relationship.” Hmm, interesting. As for most of those who aren’t sexually active, their concepts generally believe that sex has absolutely nothing to do with anything physically, and is all just an emotional “step” in life.

Ok I’m not writing this article for the purpose of sex education, and I’m not going to preach my views on sex and what it is. However I’m just trying to make the point that we live in a world where our so-called “education” on sex ends up being detrimental instead of providing the benefits from it’s intentions. It has good intentions, and I understand how difficult it is for them to target their audience… but I’m just bringing up a point where what is happening, is happening.

And I’m by no means saying vaguely that “party animals should not have sex, and introverted shy girls should go out insane!” Absolutely not. What I’m saying is those girls who’ve been imposed on the negative concepts of sex in this world are shut off to something that needs to be understood and embraced. Sexual activity isn’t simply “something dirty, that you’d only do when you’re married”. It’s a whole lot more than that, and there are numerous reasons for someone to make a life decision and begin a sexually active life. There are also numerous reasons for someone to choose not to be active. But all that matters is if it’s done for the proper reason and the concequences are properly thought out… along side with the benefits.

Sexuality isn’t bad people. Sex for the wrong reasons, like social acceptance, peer pressure, uncontrollable desires… is wrong. But eventually, in our lives as we mature, what needs to be realised is sexuality is part of us as humans, and is more than just something emotional.

Does one really believe that during mating season for animals, animals are simply “programmed” to randomly mate and have offsprings? There’s actually aspects of sexual attraction and it’s not just the next “programmed step” in life. Surprise surprise, animals have feelings.

Now there obviously isn’t a solution to this whole detriments of sex education. The purpose of this article wasn’t to be an advocate against sex education, it was just to inform people that this is an issue that should be thought about. We hear weird comments going around that are clearly a misinterpretation of sex, and if you think about it all roots from a misconception of what we are being taught. So basically if you are one of these “girls” with similar ideas expressed in this article, just realise that sex isn’t simply “the next emotional step in life”, and is more an aspect of one’s life that shouldn’t be judged with simple conclusions. It can’t be simply judged as “bad” because theres so much more to it to put a single label and assume correctness.

It’s an aspect of life as a human being that should be explored. Just get the whole picture before judging something as simply bad or wrong, and open your mind to the world.